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Why People Take Advantage of INFJs

Why People Exploit INFJs

In this life, not all people are on our side. Some are just using us. They take advantage of us, manipulate us, and lie to our faces. INFJ’s, as individuals with innate kind souls, are often more at risk of being mistreated by others. So let’s explore 5 Common Ways People Take Advantage of INFJs.

Why People Take Advantage of INFJs

Self Sacrificing

INFJs have a profound ability to understand and empathize with people, making them natural caregivers and confidants. Their compassionate nature and intuitive understanding of emotions often creates an inviting space for people to open up and seek comfort.

These qualities can be incredibly rewarding for both INFJs and those they come into contact with, because their relationships are based on mutual respect and care. However, some individuals take advantage of an INFJs natural propensity to offer emotional support, consciously or subconsciously perceiving it as a one way transaction.

These individuals recognize an INFJ's willingness to listen and extend help without fully appreciating the depth of emotional investment required from them. When INFJs find themselves in these skewed dynamics, they can feel incredibly drained, unfulfilled, and even taken for granted.

An INFJs selfless nature and desire to help others can sometimes overshadow their own needs. They may find it challenging to assert boundaries or express their own vulnerabilities, as they fear jeopardizing the relationship or burdening others with their own emotional struggles.

This self-sacrificing tendency can create an unhealthy pattern, where the INFJ consistently puts others first, while their own emotional well being remains neglected.

The Helper’s High

INFJs are often driven by a genuine desire to assist others, and they may experience a phenomenon known as the "helper's high." ‘Helpers high’ refers to a sense of euphoria or fulfillment that one experiences when they provide support or guidance to someone in need.

Unfortunately, this positive feeling can create a feedback loop that leads them to offer help even when it becomes unsustainable for them. The helper's high comes from an INFJ's empathetic nature and deep rooted need to make a positive difference in people's lives.

When they witness personal growth in someone they have helped, INFJs experience a great surge of satisfaction. However individuals who seek to exploit INFJs may identify their desire for the helper's high. They may then deliberately manipulate situations to evoke the INFJ's empathetic response, knowing that they are more likely to receive assistance when the INFJ is emotionally invested.

This exploitation can lead to a cycle where INFJs continually offer help, even to those who consistently take but rarely give in return. The INFJ's strong sense of empathy and their desire to maintain positive connections can make it difficult for them to recognize when they are being taken advantage of in this way.

Mask of Competence

INFJs are often highly independent individuals. They project an image into the world of self reliance and competence. However this can sometimes create a misconception that they don't require help or support, leading some to assume that INFJs can handle more than what is fair or reasonable.

As a result, some people may be inclined to rely heavily on an INFJ, without appreciating the toll it is taking on them. When INFJs find themselves in these dynamics, it can reinforce the expectation that they should always be the pillars of strength and stability.

They may find it challenging to express their own vulnerabilities or ask for help, fearing that it may disrupt the perceived image of competence they have unintentionally cultivated. INFJs can also feel overwhelmed and burdened by the weight of others' expectations, struggling to find a balance between their own needs and the demands placed upon them.

Projection of Own Values

INFJs have an incredibly idealistic nature and strong moral compass, and as a result, they can have a tendency to project their own values and thought processes onto others. INFJs tend to have deep seated belief in the inherent goodness of humanity.

They often assume that everyone shares their inclination towards acting altruistically and treating others with kindness and consideration. They also see the potential for growth and positive change in others, however this optimism can sometimes color their perception of people's ulterior motives.

A predisposition to see the best in others can leave INFJs vulnerable to being taken advantage of. They may not recognize or acknowledge situations where their trust is being exploited or where others are manipulating their kindness for personal gain.

Their genuine desire to understand and connect with people may prevent them from seeing the red flags or warning signs that indicate someone might not be a good person. INFJs often struggle to accept that some individuals are primarily motivated by self-interest or lack the empathy and consideration that they themselves possess.

This discrepancy between their idealized expectations and the actual intentions of others can create a blind spot, making it challenging for them to recognize when they are being taken advantage of.

Complex Emotional Landscape

INFJs are characterized by their intricate and multifaceted inner emotional lives. They possess a deep sensitivity and a profound capacity for introspection, which often drives them to seek resolution and closure in emotionally charged situations.

INFJs have a strong desire to understand and make sense of their own emotions and the emotions of those around them. As a result they often strive for harmony and coherence within themselves and in their relationships.

However this drive for resolution can make them vulnerable to manipulation, as manipulative individuals recognize that the INFJ's quest for emotional clarity can be used against them. Manipulators may exploit the complexity of the INFJ's emotions by deliberately creating or exacerbating emotionally charged situations.

They may use guilt, gaslighting, and emotionally manipulative techniques to confuse or destabilize an INFJ. By triggering intense emotional responses, these manipulative individuals are then able to gain a sense of power and control.

Skilled manipulators can capitalize on an INF J's natural inclination to empathize deeply with others. They are able to play on the INFJ's empathy, using emotional appeals to elicit sympathy and compliance quite effectively.

This can further complicate the INFJ's inner emotional landscape, making it even more challenging for them to discern manipulation from genuine emotional dynamics. The intricate nature of the INFJ's emotions can also make it difficult for them to set clear boundaries.

They may struggle to recognize when their emotions are being exploited as they may second-guess their own perceptions or feel responsible for resolving the emotional turmoil created by others. This can perpetuate a cycle of control, where a manipulator continues to leverage the INFJ's emotional complexity for their own benefit.